Updated: Feb 4, 2019
At this age, we’ve all learned the Golden Rule, “Do unto those as you would have them do unto you!” And if you are a Christian like myself, this is preached to us at least once a month in church.
Now I don't mean to be petty, but I’m a strong advocate of reciprocity and live by the saying “Keep that same energy!” (Shout out to Cardi B!) If I sense that someone gives off bad energy, or acts funny in any way, I reciprocate that SAME energy, no matter what the case may be.
Launching my blog has shown me the true colors of a few people I thought were close to me. Let me start by saying that I am thee most supportive friend. If you have an idea, I’m amping you up. Want to talk through your business plan or marketing activities, I’m here! Want me to look over your resume and help draft a cover letter? I gotchu sis! This is why I stand so strongly in this case and cant seem to continue to treat others how I would want to be treated.
I’ve had people completely ignore my launch and not even acknowledge it. We could be in a room full of people, and some friends may be talking to me about it with excitement, and my other “friend” would walk away and distance themselves so she didn't have to engage in the conversation. I’ve had another “friend” who unfollowed me on social media and didn't follow my blog’s page or subscribe. Now of course I don't expect for all of my friends and associates to hop on the bandwagon as soon as I roll out content, but those friends that I confided in during the planning and brand building process are held to a higher standard. Their actions spoke volumes and cannot be overlooked. Call me petty, but I will most definitely be keeping that same energy! Okuuuuuuurrrrrt!
I do admit that at first I was a little taken back and a teeny tiny bit hurt by these actions but I remembered a message I heard in church last year that explicitly explained that everyone can’t go with you to your next level. God will sometimes remove people and sever connections that will no longer serve you as you progress into your purpose. Because of this, you have to find solace in cutting loose ends and appreciating the good times you had.
2019 is grind season! And I have no tolerance for surrounding myself with people who don't whole heartedly support me and whatever it is that I'm pursuing.
We as girl bosses need to learn to not compromise on this! It is essential that we are surrounded by a circle of winners who support and NOT hate on one another. There’s too much negativity in this world, and it is imperative that we protect ourselves from anyone who doesn't push you to do great things or hinder your growth. ITS MORE IMPORTANT TO HAVE A SMALL CIRCLE OF TRUSTED SOLID FRIENDS THAN A LARGE CIRLCE WHO YOU SOMETIMES HAVE TO QUESTION THEIR INTENTIONS. As we continue to grow and become the people we are destined to be, its all about the quality of our friends, not the quantity. They say we are most like the people we hang around, so it's key that we are strategic is ensuring that the people we affiliate with and build friendships with produce positive outcomes and benefit one another at the end of the day.